The tree, the gifts, the dinners, the decorations, the appetizers, the cookies, the music…. it all has to be absolutely perfect. Your friends, family and coworkers are coming, and you’re rushing around to make every last detail perfect. Last year was so perfect, and this year you work to top it all.

All of this has good intentions. You want to share all the love with those around you that you love. Sometimes trying to be perfect can cause you to stress out and lose the true feeling of the holidays.

This season, when you’re starting to stress out, I want you to remember this.

Be Realistic.

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be perfect. As you and your families change and grow, traditions can also change and grow.

You don’t have to rack up a ton of holiday debt that you’ll be paying off over the next two years.

You don’t have to invite every person you know to your home just because you want everyone to like you.

All you have to do is take the small circle of those you love the most and share happiness whatever that might mean.

Here are a few ways you may do that.

  1. The Gift of Giving

    Instead of your family buying gifts for everyone, maybe you do a gift exchange instead where your family picks a name of another family member. That way, there’s no competition on who gives you the best gift. This gives an opportunity to really give a thoughtful gift instead of the most expensive gift. White elephant gift exchanges are also a great way of everyone getting a gift without over doing it.

  2. Stick to a Budget

    Make a list ahead of time, decide realistically how much you can afford to spend, and stick to it. Mindless shopping without a list, or impulse shopping can cause unnecessary purchases and guilt.

  3. Charity

    Don’t forget about those less fortunate going through harder times. Bring your friends and family together to share the love with a local charity.

  4. Set aside Differences

    Accept what is. Don’t overreact to the small things. Any family or friends that you may have grievances against, put it aside for holidays’ sake. Don’t think that you have to top your neighbor or your last years’ party by spending more or going bigger.

If it doesn’t bring you joy, then why do it? If bringing others joy lights you up, remember there are so many ways to do it without losing your mind during the holidays.


Liz <3